I do what I can to stay in shape, I eat healthily and exercise every day and, for the most part, I am OK with what I see in the mirror. I sometimes find myself looking wistfully (and with the tiniest amount of envy) at the beautiful 20 somethings but I’m sensible enough to realise that I’m not going to have their perfect bodies and flawless skin at my age. No amount of time spent at the gym and no amount of money spent on moisturizers will turn back the clock. That said, I’m a UK size 10 and a minor investment in botox and dermal fillers has ensured that my face doesn’t look like it needs ironing just yet so, all in all not too shabby.
Until I walk into Monaco, which is about 20 minutes from where I live. I swear to God, there are more beautiful women per square metre there than anywhere else in the world! Young, tall, flawlessly made up and with an amazing, effortless elegance. As I usually walk to Monaco, to avoid the traffic and the notoriously small parking spaces, I dress in trainers and workout clothes and am invariably, unless it’s between January and March, sweaty by the time I arrive. I also love to listen to music when I walk so my ensemble is topped off with a pair of bluetooth headphones which are incredibly practical but make me look a bit like a cyberman. Faced with the visions that float around me trailing clouds of perfume and very small dogs dressed in small pink dog jumpers I can’t help but feel a little inadequate.
I guess I’m not the only woman that feels like that from time to time, the fashion, makeup and cosmetic surgery industries wouldn’t exist if I was, but I do wonder why we put ourselves under so much pressure to look good? Moreover I wonder if our slightly green tinted glasses distort reality. Of course there are some women who are naturally beautiful but many of our expectations of ourselves and our appearance come from what we see in newspapers, magazines and, of course, online. When someone has been dressed, made-up, beautifully lit and possibly airbrushed of course they’re going to look their best but, see that person without all those things and it’s a different story. They may well still be beautiful but it’s more real, more attainable if you will.measuring-up
The pictures below show celebs with and without make-up; I give them to you as a gift for the next time you’re beating yourself up because, no matter how hard you try, you can’t stop finding yourself wanting when you look in the mirror.
As Sophia Lauren famously said “Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful”. I’ll be sure to remember that when my hair’s plastered to my head with sweat, my face is red with exertion and I’ve just remembered that I’m wearing the leggings that go all baggy around the arse after about 10 minutes ;O)
Instead I’ll leave you with this quote which reminds me that focusing on how we act towards others is far more important than how we appear to them: